18 Signs You Have High Emotional Intelligence
18 Signs You Have High Emotional IntelligenceAre you emotionally intelligent? Here’s how to know for sure.
Measuring emotional intelligence can be difficult because of its intangible nature. But Dr. Travis Bradberry has analyzed the data from the million-plus people that TalentSmart has tested for EQ to help identify the behaviors that are sure signs you have a high EQ. He shares them with us in this article, originally published on LinkedIn Pulse.
When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: People with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly-held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success.
Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that we know 90 percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.
Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it very difficult to know how much you have and what you can do to improve if you’re lacking. You can always take a scientifically validated test, such as the one that comes with the Emotional Intelligence 2.0 book.
Unfortunately, quality (scientifically valid) EQ tests aren’t free. So, I’ve analyzed the data from the million-plus people that TalentSmart has tested in order to identify the behaviors that are the hallmarks of a high EQ. What follows are sure signs that you have a high EQ.
1. You have a robust emotional vocabulary.
All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur. Our research shows that only 36 percent of people can do this, which is problematic because unlabeled emotions often go misunderstood, which leads to irrational choices and counterproductive actions.
People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable,” “frustrated,” “downtrodden,” or “anxious.” The more specific your word choice, the better insight you have into exactly how you are feeling, what caused it and what you should do about it.
Sometimes the battle weary soldier feels transported into a state of nothingness. That feeling of “I know the enemy is relentlessly attacking and wearing me down, but I’ve lost the strength, both mentally and physically, to continue fighting.” What causes him to get back up, lift the shield and sword and go at it again?
The answer is this: the prayers of the saints! There is power in the warriors of God banding together, lifting the weary soldier before the Throne, bonding him to the Word of God and to the promises that break every yoke.
As the brothers and sisters unite in prayer and praise on behalf of this one, the warring angels in the spirit realm are energized and spurred to action. The Lord sounds a battle cry, commanding the angels, giving them power and direction. They defeat the spirits of darkness with gusto.
Does this sound like a movie script? It should be, but it’s also reality. If you do not understand the spirit realm and the works of God on your behalf, you will lie down in defeat and lose out on the blessing of being refreshed, reignited and restored. Our fellow believers are gifted to us as co-warriors, as fierce collaborators in the battles we face here on the earth.
If you are a born again child of God, a believer in Jesus Christ, and submitted to Him, you will be a target for the enemy of your soul. That enemy is sent to steal, kill and destroy. He hits below the belt. He plays dirty. He will kick you when you’re down. That’s why you must understand the need for daily communion with your Father, putting on that armor of God, and praying for and with your fellow Christians. We’re all in this together.
The power that is within us through Jesus is amazing. But it must be activated. We have a choice. When the storm hits our life, we decide---do we rise up, take authority and fight, or do we lie down, cry and moan and wait to see how much worse it will get? We must be prepared every single day for the fiery darts coming at us. We must be ready to stand firm and believe that the Commander in Chief of the Heavenly Forces is ready to dispatch the warring armies on our behalf. And prayer, yes prayer, is the cannon ball, fired into the heavenlies that ignites the activity of the rescue and restore mission.
Never underestimate the power of prayer. That’s what your enemy wants---for you to have doubt and unbelief, and to decide it makes no difference. That’s his big victory. If you surrender to doubt, his plans will succeed. When you are weary from the battle, stop and remember to call out to your fellow believers to hold up your arms, to lift you to the Father, and see how fast things change. And when another calls out for prayer, be quick to respond and quick to go to the Lord on their behalf. This is a major blessing of God and we honor Him by using the weapons He has provided for our victory!
There is power in the name of Jesus
To break every chain
All sufficient sacrifice
So freely given
Such a price
Bought our redemption
Heaven's gates swing wide
There is power in the name of Jesus
There's an army rising up
To Break every chain
Break every chain
Break every chain
Power over Darkness
4 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds,....., bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, 2 Corinthians 10:4-6 (NKJV)
When are we going to get it? We live in a battle zone! Why is it that when things are crashing down around us we blame, we curse, we have a pity party or we curl up in a ball of despair? As believers, we know that our every move is either flesh driven, Holy Spirit driven, or manipulated by our enemy, satan.
Think about the last time you were having a bad day. Things were happening that were pushing all your buttons. You blew up in anger, or you laid down in tears. You let despair rock you all over the place. If you’re like me at all, you offered up some desperate sounding prayers while continuing on down the detour toward hopelessness.
Darkness has a slick, effective skill at blindsiding us; hitting our weak spots when we’re not looking. We get hit and we get mad at God for not stopping it. I’m just being honest here because I’m guilty.
Over and over in scripture we are taught to be alert, to be on guard, to keep that armour in place, sword drawn. We are told to guard our hearts, to stand on His promises, to speak faith, and to declare Truth. We have every weapon, every tool and most importantly the strongest power there is, Jesus Christ, abiding within us. We are already victorious, but we don’t seem to get it! We sing the songs, and quote the verses, but when the attack strikes, down we go!
The weapons of our warfare are not carnal. They are not physical. The weapons we hold are spiritual and they are powerful. We just have to get it, really get it----if we’re going to live above the sludge!
We are instructed to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. I am convinced that this is where we get off track. When the battle begins, right from the inception, we must stop and submit our thoughts to Him. It’s fine to call out to Him for help, but our part is to stop the negative thought patterns which lead to anger, self pity, blame, or other dark emotions. Sometimes the battle to stop those thoughts is intense, but this is the key. Once we stop and submit our thoughts, taking them captive to His will, He will help us to navigate those thoughts back toward the path to strength. Taking authority over the situation with your sword--the Word of God, will yield power over the situation. Our spiritual weapons are mighty for the pulling down of strongholds. Start proclaiming those verses, those promises, out loud and watch darkness dissipate.
If we understand the power within us, as His children, we can rise above the attacks, standing firm and confident. Get those thoughts under control and then take that insane situation that is in your face and hand it over to your Father. He has the answers. He knows the details better than you do. Trust Him.
In these last days, we are finding ourselves in the battle more than ever before. We are tested, tried and attacked. We must remember that we have been given the tools, the weapons to defeat the enemy, to defeat our fleshly weaknesses, and to stand in victory. If we don’t use what we have, it’s our own fault we’re defeated. I’m not saying it’s easy. Some days are difficult. I’m saying, (and talking to myself here), that we have all we need, and “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Phil 4:13)
A New Level of Spiritual Warfare, Part 3
A New Level of Spiritual Warfare…..Part 3 Nancy LaPointe
I hope you have read and thought about the first two installments of this series. The Lord put on my heart an urgency to share these things, and they are serious. Daily I see Christians who are blindly going on with their activities, ignoring the warnings the Lord is giving. There is a dangerous attitude that “nothing will happen to me” since I was baptized and believe in Jesus. Please take time to stop and ask your Father what He wants from you at this time, and really pay attention to His answer. It could be a life or death matter.
Lawlessness is increasing sharply in our land. The love of many has grown cold and is growing colder each day. (Matt 24:12) Hearts are hardened and violence abounds. As believers, we must be tuned in to the Voice of the Spirit for regular direction and guidance---for ourselves and for our families.
As I shared in Part 1, the Lord revealed to me that a new level of evil has been unleashed on the earth. He has lifted much of His old order of protections. He has warned His children again and again that judgment is coming. There are many scoffers. Don’t make the mistake of joining those ranks. Pray for discernment. Be ready to obey whatever He asks of you. It could save your life or the lives of your loved ones. He wants none to perish.
In Part 2, I told you about the ways that unhealed wounds, unforgiveness or sin can put a barrier between you and God, so that demonic forces are drawn to you, wreaking havoc in your life. It’s urgently imperative that you address your issues and get right with God now. When much more difficult days come, you need all your spiritual strength to stand firm against the enemy, leaving him no open doors for entry into your life.
Today, my final word (I think) involves the importance of utilizing the power within you that is yours if Yeshua Jesus lives in you. If you are a born again believer, you hold the keys to the Kingdom of Heaven. You wield the weapons for victory on this earth as well. If you do not use them, you are toast….emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It’s time to stop being lazy, wimpy Christians. We have power beyond any imaginable force. If we don’t use it, we will be defeated….which is in essence our choice, not God’s.
Throughout God’s Word He teaches us these principles. And yet, most Christians just fall into the pace of the world, many living in depression, defeat, and denial. What a slap in the face of our God who has given us all we need to be overcomers! (2 Peter 1:3-4)
It’s time to rise up, take authority over the flesh, the demonic world, and the negativity that steals, kills and destroys. The Lord has instructed us to speak blessings not curses. Stop speaking curses over your life, your kids, your jobs, your church.
I have been so disillusioned with preachers who “speak things into existence” constantly telling people to claim this or that, which usually involves material wealth. So disgusted with the material mindset. Well, the devil uses that too!! Because of that disgust, I have neglected to speak out in faith, claiming the things of God that are important to Him. He has told us to speak His Word, His promises, boldly going before His Throne of grace, and believe you have what you ask of Him. (Hebrews 4) No….not focusing on a Mercedes, but boldly asking for healing, salvation for loved ones, deliverance for the ones held captive, and so on. Boldly! He is pleased and blessed when we speak blessing, when we speak faith, believing in His power to produce, heal, deliver. (Mark 11:24-25)
When we speak negativity, “I’ll never have a good job. Nobody will ever ask me to teach. My family are all losers,” etc., we should not expect any positive changes. We are coming into agreement with the enemy and saying to God that His promises are worthless. We are double minded, and should not expect anything from God.. (James 1:8; James 4:8). Start proclaiming victory out loud. He will bless you for it.
As the days grow darker, when all around us is looking grim, we must put on the full armor of God, (Ephes 6), rise up, take authority and keep our eyes on Jesus, the Author and Perfector of our faith. (Heb 12:2) If you are not ready or able to do that, trouble is on your horizon. You have all the tools, the weapons of warfare at your fingertips.( 2 Cor 10:4) It’s a matter of believing and using them. It’s up to you.
Spiritual warfare is all about knowing who you are in Christ. Knowing what power you hold. Knowing and standing firm when the fiery arrows come at you. If you wait to try and figure it out when the war is in full attack, it might be too late. Get ready now. Your life may depend on it.
New Level of Spiritual Warfare Part 2
New Level of Spiritual Warfare
Today I want to continue sharing some things the Lord has been showing me regarding spiritual warfare. Last week I related some thoughts about our need to be constantly tuned in to the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Because the level of evil unleashed on the earth has increased, our level of awareness, prayer and discernment must increase as well.The Lord said His people are not prepared for things that are coming soon. If we are not honing our swords and shields now, it will be too late when more serious troubles strike. We will fold under the weight of the attacks.
I want to reiterate that the call is not to walk in fear or dread. The call is not about blaming the devil for everything and blindly going on in our sin. Just the opposite is true. While we do not see a demon behind every bush, I guarantee you there are demons lurking behind some of your bushes and you will not understand the battle if you choose to ignore them.
If we don’t understand God’s grand scheme of all things spiritual, then we won’t understand our personal role at all.
2 Corinthians 10:3-6 NIV
For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. And we will be ready to punish every act of disobedience, once your obedience is complete.
Please understand this----if we ignore God’s promptings to turn from sin and receive healing, we are in effect choosing to walk in agreement with the enemy because those things are in direct conflict with the Lord and His Word. As we walk in agreement with the enemy, those demons are drawn to us like little magnets and we are opening doors for them to harass and bring us down. They always target our weak spots and sin. It’s not “the devil made me do it”; it’s a partnership.
The power within us is Jesus Christ---the power to overcome is through Him! We must take responsibility for our lives, attitudes and behaviors, but if we turn a blind eye to the attacks, that is foolish. Utilizing the power of Jesus Christ working in and through us is the key to victory! Satan was defeated at the cross. His deception is the key to his successful attacks on believers.
We must pray for discernment every day. The Holy Spirit reveals to us when danger is lurking. He warns us when the enemy is about to move in and go for the weak spots (sin, unhealed wounds).. The devil has no power over us, except what we give him---through our sin and unbelief. I always say that our true strength in spiritual warfare is a total comprehension of who we are in Christ, standing firm on His Word, through the work of His Spirit, living godly lives. Leaving no open doors for those attacks. That’s our life insurance.
Example: I’ve had times where someone says or does something that really pushes my buttons. I react without praying or thinking, but in total negativity, hurt, or anger. Then---I almost hear an audible “Gotcha!” Something in my spirit jolts me to the reality that I was hit in a place where I need healing, forgiveness or to repent of resentments, etc. Whatever the case, when I deal with that issue and let the Lord heal it, the next time something similar hits me, I can be at peace---no reacting or even hurting. In fact, if I’m paying attention to the Spirit’s Voice, I won’t even be tempted to fall for it at all. This is walking in His peace. The other person is responsible for their own ‘’stuff”. I’m only responsible for me.
The days we are living in are rapidly becoming more and more lawless and unpredictable. Without a strong faith and spirit that is attuned to His, we are on shaky ground. The Lord has warned that we are about to see frightening scenes, disasters unlike any before, and spiritual attacks will be relentless. Please do not ignore the warnings to get your spiritual life sharpened and ready.
“Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil” (Ephesians 5:15-16). Most commentaries agree that from the Greek translation, this speaks of a coming “evil day” which refers to the intensifying of the spiritual war in which believers are living, when dangers will increase. Satanic opposition is stronger than before. This is what the Lord has shown me is “beginning now” and is a direct step to the second coming of Jesus. Only then will we see the final destruction of satan and his legions. We are instructed to be vigilant, standing firm, so that we are not caught off guard by his schemes. This is on the job training for the final days of confrontation.
Unseen forces operate around us at all times. If we could see in the spirit and observe the spirit realm each day, we would live and think so differently. Our Father assigns angels to guard us and do battle over us. We are surrounded and never fighting the battle alone. (Psalm 91) . Believers generally do not even recognize the host of unseen celestial entities whose power vastly exceeds our own. With some exceptions, our enemies usually remain invisible to our human eyes, but are very real. These spiritual entities exist in several forms and are named by the apostle Paul as: “rulers, powers, world forces of darkness, spiritual forces of wickedness in high places” (Ephesians 6). We probably cannot grasp fully the variety and numbers of those forces which oppose us. There are rankings and descriptions in the book of Revelation as well, which speaks of creatures which we will not understand until we are living in God’s heaven. (Rev 9; Rev 5).
Remember, If we don’t understand God’s grand scheme of all things spiritual, then we won’t understand our personal role at all. “Study to show yourself approved a workman unto God, that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the Word of Truth.” (2 Tim 2:15). By studying the Bible and researching scripture on spiritual warfare, the Lord will open your spiritual eyes to more fully understand the battle in which you live. It will also offer hope and encouragement for the journey, because “I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me.” (Phil 4:13).
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